Tuesday, September 30, 2003
A man could easily fall in love with a beautiful girl, so for me, love at first sight only applies for men. There is no way girls fall in love with men solely upon their physical appearance. Girls tend to be more careful. They will look into who he is eg. his personality, his job, his background, etc.
A friend of mine fell in love at first sight, in fact, not exactly that way. He already knew about that girl a bit but never met her before, so when they met in one occasion, his heart beat fast. Being a mature man, he could control the situation, not showing his nervousness.
Ever since, my friend tried to find out more about her, sometimes he asked for my opinion on what he should do to impress her. The more he knows about her, the deeper he falls in love. The problem is that the girl already has a boyfriend and my friend doesn’t want to disturb an established relationship. It’s just not his style. He buried his feeling deep inside. Poor him, wish I could help (sigh)
A friend of mine fell in love at first sight, in fact, not exactly that way. He already knew about that girl a bit but never met her before, so when they met in one occasion, his heart beat fast. Being a mature man, he could control the situation, not showing his nervousness.
Ever since, my friend tried to find out more about her, sometimes he asked for my opinion on what he should do to impress her. The more he knows about her, the deeper he falls in love. The problem is that the girl already has a boyfriend and my friend doesn’t want to disturb an established relationship. It’s just not his style. He buried his feeling deep inside. Poor him, wish I could help (sigh)
Friday, September 26, 2003
I called a friend asking her whether she had her dinner and would ask her out if she had not. She said she was preparing something and answered no to my request, saying thank you. That’s it, end of conversation.
Couldn’t she at least be nice once by offering me to join? Just a simple thought, nothing else…
Will elaborate more next time. I am in a hurry, going to airport heading to Jogya, see u guys soon…
Couldn’t she at least be nice once by offering me to join? Just a simple thought, nothing else…
Will elaborate more next time. I am in a hurry, going to airport heading to Jogya, see u guys soon…
Thursday, September 25, 2003
This morning while driving heading to office, my radio played this not-too-old song sung by Surface. I remember I knew this song quite a long time ago, when I was in college. Don’t know why I become so romantic :) Here you are:
My heart is filled with so much love
And I need someone I can call my own
To fall in love, that's what ev'ryone's dreaming of
I hold this feeling oh so strong
Life is too short to live alone
Without someone to call my own
I will care for you, you will care for me
Our love will live forever
(Chorus:)
Shower me with your love
Shower me with the love that I long for
Shower me with your love
Shower me with the love I've been waiting for
I close my eyes and pray all my wishes come true
Ev'ry night I go to sleep
Until you're mine, I'll wait for you endlessly
Can't you see
Fairy tales, they do sometimes come true
If you believe, it could happen to you
Like the stars that shine way up in the sky
Our love will live forever
(Repeat chorus)
Like the stars that shine way up in the sky
Our love will live forever
Live forever
(Repeat chorus)
Shower me with your love
Shower me with the love I've been waiting for
My heart is filled with so much love
And I need someone I can call my own
To fall in love, that's what ev'ryone's dreaming of
I hold this feeling oh so strong
Life is too short to live alone
Without someone to call my own
I will care for you, you will care for me
Our love will live forever
(Chorus:)
Shower me with your love
Shower me with the love that I long for
Shower me with your love
Shower me with the love I've been waiting for
I close my eyes and pray all my wishes come true
Ev'ry night I go to sleep
Until you're mine, I'll wait for you endlessly
Can't you see
Fairy tales, they do sometimes come true
If you believe, it could happen to you
Like the stars that shine way up in the sky
Our love will live forever
(Repeat chorus)
Like the stars that shine way up in the sky
Our love will live forever
Live forever
(Repeat chorus)
Shower me with your love
Shower me with the love I've been waiting for
Wednesday, September 24, 2003
Saturday morning at 4 AM on September 20, 2003, my beloved sister gave birth to a baby girl. Now, I have 2 nieces in Taiwan and one nephew in Jakarta :)
Don’t know when I will have my own children…
Don’t know when I will have my own children…
Tuesday, September 23, 2003
I remember once my friend mentioned that if she is too kind to a male friend, she is afraid that she may give a wrong impression, whereas she doesn’t want it that way. She was afraid that her friend took it wrongly and fell for her and in fact she already has a boyfriend.
I don’t see it that way. It is very true that his friend might fall for her but there is nothing to worry. If you can’t accept his love, just be frank to him, telling him the truth, telling him that you have a boyfriend, that you have your own way, that you are destined to be together with him, that it can’t be changed, that you’re happy with him, that…that…that….
Think he will understand, after your long and detailed explanation :) So, nothing to worry, be kind to all and keep it that way.
However, there is always someone who won’t give up easily… :)
I don’t see it that way. It is very true that his friend might fall for her but there is nothing to worry. If you can’t accept his love, just be frank to him, telling him the truth, telling him that you have a boyfriend, that you have your own way, that you are destined to be together with him, that it can’t be changed, that you’re happy with him, that…that…that….
Think he will understand, after your long and detailed explanation :) So, nothing to worry, be kind to all and keep it that way.
However, there is always someone who won’t give up easily… :)
Saturday, September 20, 2003
I don¡¦t know why every time I have a crush on someone, that someone either already has a boyfriend or she isn¡¦t even aware of my existence. It always happens to me. Poor me :(
And again, it is happening to me. Can¡¦t take it no longer. I must have done something wrong, must repent.
If she already has a boyfriend, usually I pull myself out because I don¡¦t like to disturb others¡¦ relationship but if she is only indifferent, unconcerned, I will try to market myself to her, make her see what a nice man I am :) (my innocent face and clean skin usually help, thanks God).
Good luck!!
And again, it is happening to me. Can¡¦t take it no longer. I must have done something wrong, must repent.
If she already has a boyfriend, usually I pull myself out because I don¡¦t like to disturb others¡¦ relationship but if she is only indifferent, unconcerned, I will try to market myself to her, make her see what a nice man I am :) (my innocent face and clean skin usually help, thanks God).
Good luck!!
Thursday, September 18, 2003
Isn’t it wonderful that in the middle of your busy day, you can spare time to communicate with people you care, either by phone, e-mail, yahoo, blog or other means of communication? The busier you are, the more you think of your loved ones. Isn’t it wonderful if we all can do that? (I keep thinking of someone now, can’t control, how weak I am)
Wednesday, September 17, 2003
Principles, whatever they are, as a guidance is ok but don’t let them affect you too much. A friend of mine seems to let herself follow principles a lot that she ignores her feeling. Recently, principles for choosing the right marriage partner seems to attract her attention. After reading the principles, I am very sure some of them are untrue.
For me, choosing the right partner is easy. She has to be of the same faith with mine, be able to ‘communicate’ with me and I agree with Principle 5 of Neil Clark Warren, Ph.D, I must be attracted to her.
You have too many principles, you won’t get married, for sure, not until you are forty.
For me, choosing the right partner is easy. She has to be of the same faith with mine, be able to ‘communicate’ with me and I agree with Principle 5 of Neil Clark Warren, Ph.D, I must be attracted to her.
You have too many principles, you won’t get married, for sure, not until you are forty.
Tuesday, September 16, 2003
A friend of mine has a so-called girlfriend. One day, instead of going out with her girlfriend, he made excuses and went out with another friend. It’s not that he wanted to betray his girlfriend but he just wanted to spend time with other friends. I wonder how can he prefer to spend time with other friends and not with his girlfriend? What’s in his mind is not easy to digest. Even sometimes, I don’t understand him.
Let me continue the story. My friend made an appointment with his girl friend to have a dinner and they agreed to meet up. Never cross in his mind that he would meet his girlfriend while he was with his friend but it happened. What a coincidence! He was walking with his friend heading to a parking lot when his girlfriend passed by in a car. Shocked, instead of parking, she moved on.
Not a minute later, his mobile phone rang. It was his girlfriend. It’s like my friend was caught in the act but it’s not. He did nothing wrong.
Let me continue the story. My friend made an appointment with his girl friend to have a dinner and they agreed to meet up. Never cross in his mind that he would meet his girlfriend while he was with his friend but it happened. What a coincidence! He was walking with his friend heading to a parking lot when his girlfriend passed by in a car. Shocked, instead of parking, she moved on.
Not a minute later, his mobile phone rang. It was his girlfriend. It’s like my friend was caught in the act but it’s not. He did nothing wrong.
Monday, September 15, 2003
How if a girl keep calling and visiting you asking for a status whereas you are not sure you like her? She is so tolerable that she has given you more than enough time. She is willing to accompany you, go out with you, serve you and even give herself to you. What should you do? Of course you can easily answer this way, “Ok, from now on, you are my girlfriend,” and with the status, you can start ‘treating’ her as your girlfriend. The problem is: you are not sure that she is the one and one day you may dump her. Do you have the heart to do that? Alternatively, you don’t give any answer (you don’t give a damn) and therefore make the relationship hang which is not a solution as well.
Friday, September 12, 2003
A friend made a return call to me and started by saying,”Sorry, just now the line was cut off cause I have other call waiting, now still want to talk or not?” I was stunned, really, I was stunned, not that I am hoping too much but the way she talked, my God, so direct. It’s like that……………..
However, I always try to think positively, maybe I am not used to be so direct or maybe I have my feeling mixed here. I just don’t know…….
However, I always try to think positively, maybe I am not used to be so direct or maybe I have my feeling mixed here. I just don’t know…….
Feel sorry for a friend’s failed relationship. It happens to many people and could happen to you or me. But, let’s see the good side. By experiencing it, we become more mature and perhaps more serious for our future relationship, not taking it for granted, feeling that we are the one who should receive love and not giving. Sometimes, unconsciously, we may be too arrogant, only see things from one side and never try to put ourselves on others’ shoes.
Talking about future relationship, it’s not definitely true that we don’t have to worry. We have to have a plan or strategy or whatever you call it cause as previously mentioned by a friend, time flies, no longer runs. Must keep up with time.
So, wish you all luck for your current relationship. Treasure it if it is worth it. Time does fly and building a new relationship ain’t easy.
Talking about future relationship, it’s not definitely true that we don’t have to worry. We have to have a plan or strategy or whatever you call it cause as previously mentioned by a friend, time flies, no longer runs. Must keep up with time.
So, wish you all luck for your current relationship. Treasure it if it is worth it. Time does fly and building a new relationship ain’t easy.
Wednesday, September 10, 2003
Fell sorry...
Don’t be too hard to yourself
If you like someone, you will have to compromise. If I like someone, I will try my best to compromise, of course to a certain level :). I know when the door is close for me and once it’s close, I will not try to open it. It’s just not me if I do but if I don’t, I am not comprimising :)
Don’t be too hard to yourself, compromise a little bit lah. It won’t harm you, it may be good sometimes. Don’t be stubborn, be flexible. Don’t be too hard to yourself. Open your heart, open your mind, open yourself.
If you like someone, you will have to compromise. If I like someone, I will try my best to compromise, of course to a certain level :). I know when the door is close for me and once it’s close, I will not try to open it. It’s just not me if I do but if I don’t, I am not comprimising :)
Don’t be too hard to yourself, compromise a little bit lah. It won’t harm you, it may be good sometimes. Don’t be stubborn, be flexible. Don’t be too hard to yourself. Open your heart, open your mind, open yourself.
Tuesday, September 09, 2003
Judging and telling things are two different things. Judging is subjective and could be wrong whereas telling is based on facts. That’s why I don’t judge. I always see the facts, enough to draw a conclusion.
A friend of mine has a boyfriend, that’s a fact; that she is stubborn, that’s also a fact; that she likes to judge, that is a fact too. Nothing you can do to change it. (sigh) Patience maybe the only key, God knows…
A friend of mine has a boyfriend, that’s a fact; that she is stubborn, that’s also a fact; that she likes to judge, that is a fact too. Nothing you can do to change it. (sigh) Patience maybe the only key, God knows…
A friend turns into a total stranger
I was supposed to post this on Friday night, September 5, 2003 but it was already late and I myself was tired, physically and mentally.
I went home with a friend after attending the First Friday Mass. Didn’t know it’s me or her who started but the environment was different. Second thought, it’s her.
First, she kept asking when we could go home whether she knew exactly that I had not done with my job; the priest was still there and I had not handed over the stipend. After all, it was still ten something, not that late. Even it’s earlier than usual. Usually the mass finishes at eleven.
Secondly, she talked to my driver in the car as if I was not there. It’s not the talking with the driver but the way she acted. She supposedly sit in the back row with me so we could make use of the time in the car exchanging ideas or simply chatting but instead….
Thirdly, she seemed that she wanted to go home as earliest as possible, could not stand any longer in the car (with me). That’s why she asked to stop at the end of the road.
Arriving home, I was wondering, just now I was with a friend or a stranger. My God, so weird…
I was supposed to post this on Friday night, September 5, 2003 but it was already late and I myself was tired, physically and mentally.
I went home with a friend after attending the First Friday Mass. Didn’t know it’s me or her who started but the environment was different. Second thought, it’s her.
First, she kept asking when we could go home whether she knew exactly that I had not done with my job; the priest was still there and I had not handed over the stipend. After all, it was still ten something, not that late. Even it’s earlier than usual. Usually the mass finishes at eleven.
Secondly, she talked to my driver in the car as if I was not there. It’s not the talking with the driver but the way she acted. She supposedly sit in the back row with me so we could make use of the time in the car exchanging ideas or simply chatting but instead….
Thirdly, she seemed that she wanted to go home as earliest as possible, could not stand any longer in the car (with me). That’s why she asked to stop at the end of the road.
Arriving home, I was wondering, just now I was with a friend or a stranger. My God, so weird…
Monday, September 08, 2003
This morning before going to my office, I collected a 10R-photo of a friend after had it printed on Saturday night. The print-out’s so beautiful, I was amazed. I mean, its size is 25 x 30 cm and printed on a glossy paper and it’s in such alive color. What a good photographer I am :) The truth is, the model is beautiful and natural. This is my sincere compliment.
Anyone interested to take a look, let me know, will give you the link…
I am supposed to hand over the photo to her tonight but…never mind….
Anyone interested to take a look, let me know, will give you the link…
I am supposed to hand over the photo to her tonight but…never mind….
A relationship with no direction is dangerous, for both parties. If you are the one who take control (meaning that your partner loves you more than you do, which is undoubtedly not healthy, ) , DON’T LET your partner keep hoping by giving him/her unrealistic hope whereas you know exactly your relationship won’t work. Bullshit if you say you’re not sure with it, you just feel unsecure being alone, having no partner for social events or other reasons that I may not know. Simple clues: You don’t mind not spending time with your partner (instead, you prefer writing or reading blog), you don’t miss him/her, you don’t share your problems with him/her but instead with other friends, you never sms first, you keep his call ringing many times before picking it up or worse not picking it up at all :) and you lie to him/ her.
If you have any of the above clues, give yourself introspection! Don’t delay, you do this now or eventually, one, two, three, or … years later.
If you have any of the above clues, give yourself introspection! Don’t delay, you do this now or eventually, one, two, three, or … years later.
Friday, September 05, 2003
Getting Married
For me, not getting married, whatever the reasons are, is not right, very not right. God asked us to get married and have children. It is in the Bible (sorry, don’t remember which verse, search for yourself). This is more than enough for me as guidance for my life to be. After all, I am a Catholic.
Imagine what you miss if you don’t get married. You won’t have the chance to raise your children. We were raised by our beloved parents, and now it’s our turn to give life to others. For me, that’s life, that’s why I live….. by giving life.
Nobody can guarantee that getting married will make your life happier but how will you know you live happier by not getting married?
From other point of view: probably, not getting married is not unusual in western culture but here, where we live, it’s not appropriate. Maybe you feel nothing or even joyful by not getting married but don’t forget that what you do affect others: your family, friends, those who care a lot about you. So, don’t be selfish, think of others. Get married and do it quick :)
For me, not getting married, whatever the reasons are, is not right, very not right. God asked us to get married and have children. It is in the Bible (sorry, don’t remember which verse, search for yourself). This is more than enough for me as guidance for my life to be. After all, I am a Catholic.
Imagine what you miss if you don’t get married. You won’t have the chance to raise your children. We were raised by our beloved parents, and now it’s our turn to give life to others. For me, that’s life, that’s why I live….. by giving life.
Nobody can guarantee that getting married will make your life happier but how will you know you live happier by not getting married?
From other point of view: probably, not getting married is not unusual in western culture but here, where we live, it’s not appropriate. Maybe you feel nothing or even joyful by not getting married but don’t forget that what you do affect others: your family, friends, those who care a lot about you. So, don’t be selfish, think of others. Get married and do it quick :)
Wednesday, September 03, 2003
A friend of mine asked, ‘Who keep calling you?’ when we went out for dinner together. (we live nearby so occasionally we have dinner together). She was curious because everytime calls coming in, I just said, “will call u later”. Now I am telling you, the caller is actually a close friend of mine. She always calls to check on my position whether I am in the office, at home or at nowhere :) Sweet, right? but sometimes it disturbs me. It’s like I have an obligation to report to her where I am going, with whom and doing what. Anyway, I always try to think positively, be thankful that out there, there is somebody who cares about me. You should do the same, if there is someone who cares about you, whoever he/she is, be thankful. Be thankful is the key…
A two-year relationship is supposedly strong and binding, however there are many that on the contrary. My relationship for years also didn’t work out and till now cannot figure out why, can just blame on poor communication between us. Must consult with communication expert, probably :). One thing for sure, the chemistry wasn’t there.
What will u do when your boyfriend give u a call while you are with somebody else? In this case, your boyfriend is a jeolous one. Would you tell a lie or naively tell him that you are with a man, although there is nothing to hide. Me, I will simply say ‘I am in a cab, heading home. Call later lah, I am stuck in a heavy traffic jam, not safe talking using mobile’. The boyfriend will surely understand and that’s it, end of conversation.
However, a friend of mine is so sweet to her boyfriend, probably because of the two-year healthy, intimate relationship which was built based on trustworthiness. She never tells lies to her boyfriend and has no intention to start doing it. So at that night, when her boyfriend called and she was with her male friend, she told him the truth. Guess you can guess what happen next. She is busy explaining, with full and undisturbed concentration, thru sms the chronology. She has to explain the chronology, my God….
What will u do when your boyfriend give u a call while you are with somebody else? In this case, your boyfriend is a jeolous one. Would you tell a lie or naively tell him that you are with a man, although there is nothing to hide. Me, I will simply say ‘I am in a cab, heading home. Call later lah, I am stuck in a heavy traffic jam, not safe talking using mobile’. The boyfriend will surely understand and that’s it, end of conversation.
However, a friend of mine is so sweet to her boyfriend, probably because of the two-year healthy, intimate relationship which was built based on trustworthiness. She never tells lies to her boyfriend and has no intention to start doing it. So at that night, when her boyfriend called and she was with her male friend, she told him the truth. Guess you can guess what happen next. She is busy explaining, with full and undisturbed concentration, thru sms the chronology. She has to explain the chronology, my God….
Tuesday, September 02, 2003
After waiting anxiously for about a week, my Collins Cobuild CD-ROM finally arrived. It contains computer version of Cobuild English Dictionary for Advanced Learners. It's hardcopy version is the one I use the most besides, of course, Oxford Advanced Learner's Dictionary. Will tell u how it works after I install it later, right now, no time, still doing updates on the order of mass of my boss's daughter's holy matrimony.
I was supposed to return a fruit container to a friend of mine this morning but oops, so sorry, my father dropped by and we had hot arguments on many things till eight o' clock something and I totally forgot. She should have left to her beloved office. Never mind, she'd understand. Will bring it back to her tomorrow morning, the latest. If not too late, tonite.
